Get a Guy in Three Easy Steps
by: Terry Hernon MacDonald
You've been plucked, peeled, waxed, and liposuctioned, and yet you have zero men to show for it. What's worse, your frizzy-haired coworker who doesn't even know how to apply eyeliner correctly just met a guy, and she's squealing around the office with near-delirium.
Why is it that some girls captivate men, even if they're not thin or particularly attractive? What can you do to get in on some delirium of your own? Before you submit to one more Brazilian bikini wax, here are three tips:
1) Like yourself. If you find yourself comparing yourself to models, celebrities, or the woman who cleans your Dalmatian's teeth, you don't like yourself enough. If you think the way you look is more important than who you are, you do not like yourself enough. Healthy, well-adjusted men are attracted to women who like themselves. Losers and abusers are attracted to women who don't.
To facilitate the liking yourself process, repeat the following affirmation 30 times a day: "I love and approve of myself." Keep it up for at least 30 days. Do not discount the importance of this step: Once your insides change, your outsides will, too.
2) Like men. If you believe that all the good men are taken, that they're congenitally incapable of monogamy, that they all lie, you do not like men. What's more, you know nothing about them at all. Despite what you read in the tabloids, honest, loyal men exist and want a lasting relationship. Stop watching TV shows about people who cheat on one another. Stop reading novels that perpetuate the myth that you need a man, but the good ones are all gone. Stop hanging out with other women who harp about their man disasters. In other words, cease allowing yourself to be brainwashed.
Treat every man you meet as a unique human being. Smile at him. Be interested in him instead of his material possessions. Drop preconceived notions, look him in the eye, and listen closely when he speaks. Some men will not be worth getting to know any better, but some of them definitely will. Find out who's who.
3) Go where the men go. Here are a few ideas: Sports bars, adult ed courses in real estate investing or finance, Toastmasters meetings, bookstores (especially cafe bookstores), and ski trips. I know a well-heeled guy who just married a woman he met while he was fishing.
Get out of the house often. Become a friendly and familiar face. Don't expect to meet anybody your first time out. It's possible that you won't even meet a guy, but you may meet somebody who knows a guy who'd be perfect for you.
These tips may seem too easy to work, but I assure you they do. They're also less painful than a Brazilian bikini wax.
