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How To Deal With First Date Jitters
by: Dustin Cannon
First dates can be nerve wracking and downright scary and sometimes it is tempting to try to approach them like you would a project you are taking on at work, such as by writing down a script of everything you will say and then rehearsing it in front of the mirror. While this may help you feel better in the days preceding your date, it is not likely to be of any help when the day for the actual date arrived.
In fact you are likely to feel even more out of sorts. It is always best to be yourself and to let the evening play out as it is meant to. Be sincere and as genuine as you can be and let the other person see who you are, not who the “rehearsed” you is. Besides you do not want to become tongue tied if you forget your lines on the date so to speak and going to pieces while out on a date is not likely to earn you a second date.
Be creative and be as original as you can be. Keep in mind that you got asked out in the first place because the other person saw something in you that interested him. Calm down, relax and show him what you are all about. You have made it to the first date therefore you must have done something right.
It is always beneficial to be genuine and sincere about who you really are. Answer questions that come up on your date openly and honestly. That is what you expect from the other person after all, now isn’t it? Remember that dating is the way by which we determine who is right for us and who is not. It is a lot like a weeding out process and some make the cut and others do not. Always remain positive on a first date.
Be enthusiastic about the topics that come up but do not be so much so that you appear phony. Being a good listener goes a long way when it comes to getting to know another person. Keep in mind that while you are nervous the other person most likely is too. Remember that he did the asking and that had to have taken a lot of guts so be understanding.
It is natural for both individuals in a first dating situation to have butterflies in their Stomach. At the beginning everything is new and fresh but you have no history to draw on therefore it is exciting but also problematic to get to know someone new. Nevertheless it is always worth it to take a chance on a new person.
The two of you have things in common so let those things help connect you and make you less nervous. Ask open ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer but do not treat the date as if it were an interview for a job as a date is supposed to be a fun way to become acquainted with another person, as opposed to a grueling ordeal. Ask to learn more about topics that interest you that the other person brings up. This will encourage him to do the same with you.
It cannot be emphasized enough, the most important way to deal with first date jitters is to simply allow the evening to progress as it may and to be yourself. You want to be liked and accepted for you so make sure you show the other person what is special about yourself.
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